Forgiveness is very hard and one of the most complex and difficult concepts in human experience. Whenever we have been hurt by our partner, we feel hostility, umbrage, and irritation. Forgiveness is a choice that goes against our nature. Forgiveness is an important activity as it goes to our very instincts.
There are some misconceptions about forgiveness. Forgiving someone does not mean that you are excusing your partner’s actions, do not have feelings about the situation anymore or have to keep that person in your life. But the most important thing about forgiveness is something that you do for yourself; not for your partner. So if it is something that we do for our self and it helps us to heal and growth then why is it considered so hard? And communicate with your partner that what issues are occurring in your relationship. Try to find out them and rectify them by forgiving your spouse.
There are various reasons why you find forgiveness hard:
These reasons can be determined by sorting your feelings and setting your needs and boundaries.
If you are willing to forgive your partner then follow these four steps:
It is essential that you should first recognize the situation and think about the situation free minded. You should accept the reality of it and how it made you feel and react. Resolve all the love issues from your life.
It is essential to learn from such incidents. These incidents help you to learn about yourself, your limits, and your desires.
It is vital that you should watch or see things from your spouse point of view. And put yourself in the place of your spouse to find out why he acted in the way.
Relationships are not trouble-free. But absolution can heal the deepest wounds and transform the most stressed relationships. If you have decided that you want to tell your partner that you have forgiven him. If you do not want to convey forgiveness directly, then do it by yourself. Convey your feelings out loud so that you can feel free.